They ask is – unsurprisingly – about jealousy when I tell monogamous people that I’m polyamorous, one of the first questions.
Do I’m jealous? How do you deal? Let’s say my partner feels jealous?
I realize their concerns. If I’m truthful from acknowledging that I was polyamorous for a long time with myself, my concern about jealousy was something that prevented me. That I would feel too jealous and too insecure if my partner did the same while I knew I could love many people at once, I was worried.
Community encourages a true quantity of harmful urban myths about love, sex, and relationships. In lots of ways, culture glorifies envy: It’s assumed that with anyone else if you love someone, you’ll be jealous if they’re.
In this feeling, envy is observed as an indication of real love.
On top of that, culture makes us feel ashamed when we feel insecure or envious in a relationship, as it’s usually viewed as a indication of neediness, too little self-confidence, and unrequited love. It’s a really confusing contradiction!
As a result of this, envy is really a tough thing to navigate for anybody.